Arnold Schwarzenegger, You Are Full of Shit.

“Ahnuld” Schwarzenegger is full of shit. Talking to boorish ‘shock’ jock Howard Stern about his divorce from wife Maria Shriver after it was revealed that he sired a child with the family maid, the geriatric ‘Terminator’ star complained about the marriage counselor Shriver talked him into seeing, calling the therapist “full of shit.”

“It was the biggest mistake I’ve ever made because that guy was so full of s–t. He said more crap and more nonsense…It was absolutely, totally counterproductive to our future relationship or to any hope to get together or anything like that. It was just nonsense talk. It was the biggest mistake. Maria talked me into it. I went, and I felt instinctively maybe I shouldn’t go because I know I screwed up. I don’t have to go to anyone to have him explain to me anything. I apologized to Maria. I apologized to the kids. And I tried to then move forward and say, you know, ‘How do we make the best of it? How can I stay friends with Maria so we can raise the family together, even though she moves out?’ And I understand all that. And how do I have a really good relationship wit the kids and how do I make them still respect me even though I screwed up in this thing, but they respect me in other things that I have accomplished and done for them or for the family,” Arnold said. “And, you know, it has worked out really so well with the help from Maria, with the help of the kids, but not because of the shrink or because of some psychiatrist.”

The mistake, Arnold, is that, being a narcissist and psychopath, you don’t feel the guilt and remorse you should for having betrayed your wife, your marriage, your children from that marriage, and the husband of Mildred Baena, the maid you were boning while still married to Maria Shriver and whom you paid off in order to buy her silence. You produced a kid with someone who wasn’t your wife, act like it’s just another inconvenience for you that everyone else should “just get over”, and then wonder why you have to be made to feel guilty about it.

Maybe it’s because you really don’t feel guilt or remorse.

Surprisingly, Schwarzenegger says that he’s not that shaken up about his failed marriage or any other poor choices he’s made.

“Dwelling on it, like some people do, you know, years later, say, ‘Oh, yeah, I lost this, and I will never forget that. I’m still suffering.’ No, that’s not me,” he said. “I don’t suffer over anything that I’ve lost,”said Schwarzenegger .

It’s not at all surprising when one considers that a key trait of psychopaths is a lack of remorse about the harm they inflict on others.

But then, this is part of the pattern abusers like you engage in, Arnold. You hid your open heart surgery from your wife because you didn’t respect her enough to think that the mother of your children should know you were sick and that you were undergoing an operation that might very well have killed you. Suppose you had died on the operating table? What do you think your family would have felt finding out about your health problems only because you’d suddenly died in the course of a procedure they didn’t even know you were having? You never once considered their feelings. You weren’t protecting them from harm, in case you’re thinking of coming up with that lame rationalization. You were protecting your ego and nothing else. No one, after all, must be allowed to know you’re mortal, fallible, vulnerable.

Or how about your run for governor of California, deciding on it without even bothering to consult your wife, and not even running for any legitimate reason, but only because you wanted to lower your state taxes? (Not that you were paying all that much anyway.) You sure as hell didn’t consider her feelings, or those of your kids.

And when, during that campaign, it came out that you’re a serial sexual harasser, your pitiful excuse for a public apology was insincere, motivated solely by the fear that not offering one might jeopardize your chances of getting something you wanted.

So no, I’m not buying that you’re sorry about anything. You think some insincere apology is enough to soothe the hurt you’ve caused others. You think people should stop “dwelling” on your misdeeds, as though you’ve done anything to really make reparations. You haven’t and you know it. The marriage counselor knows it. Your soon-to-be-ex-wife knows it. But your massive ego dictates that anyone who tries to get you to truly man up and take responsibility for your actions is “full of shit”.

It’s always you who’s the victim, and not the people you’ve wronged, isn’t it Arnold? Like every overgrown child who thinks he can lie and bully others into submission, you’ve got to turn everything on its ear so you look like an angel while those you’ve wronged look like bad people for daring to suggest you’re the heartless, lying, cheating, bullying, manipulative asshole you’ve always been.

It’s not the marriage counselor who’s “full of shit”, Arnold. It’s you.

Speaking of Tests…

It’s interesting how people can make Freudian slips. The failed use of a particular meme was telling in the specific content and context in which it was created and used. For example, the message contained therein was that “the weak should fear the strong,” which was clearly designed by the original creator to be intimidating: Those who lack the strength to defend themselves must always live in fear of the strong, and therefore must never say or do anything which might provoke attack, and must hope they are not selected at random for aggression.

Yet the specific meme, originally promoted by someone who is described as something of a sad git and horrendous liar who thinks he’s smarter and funnier than he really is, is arrogant, is always ready to ridicule others while being so clueless that he ends up being the true object of scorn, reveals far more about the person who uses it than it does of its intended target. While someone using this may think he is simply choosing a random captioned image, in truth the psychological drive that led him to make the decision in the first place indicates a subconscious recognition of his own derangement and personal shortcomings.

Just some more thoughts on my previous original entry.

UPDATE (18:15):

Another example of a Freudian faux pas is in using a meme mocking the idea that someone can go to prison for criminal behavior, ignoring that the image depicts persons or characters who went to jail for just that.

Case in point:

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The 1990 film Goodfellas was adapted from the book Wiseguy by Nicholas Pileggi. It depicts the story of Henry Hill, a mobster whose life of organized crime ultimately landed him in and out of prison, and eventually into Witness Protection because of his testimony against his fellow mobsters, who themselves went to prison.

The failure in the use of the above meme is in assuming that there will never be consequences for criminal behavior. This is, of course, a false assumption, since typically it’s only the elites of society who ever avoid facing the consequences of their actions, while everyone else is subjected to the often merciless criminal courts system.

I guess the point of this is that in the wrong hands, memes can be Epic Fail.

Please…don’t misuse your memes.

Ruminations On Crazy Bastards

My sociopath-psychopath-narcissist-bully has been quiet lately, which is good.  The past weeks have been putting a lot more on my plate than I’d like, and I really don’t need the added stress.  Still, that got me thinking about bullies and bullying, and how related they are to sociopathy and psychopathy.  Having nothing better to do, I decided to look up some information on terms.

In this piece from nobullying.com, the primary difference appears to be that “Psychopaths have a high predisposition to violence while this may vary among sociopaths. A psychopath’s behavior is controlled and calculated; they [sic] are the masters of manipulation. A sociopath’s behavior is often impulsive and erratic. While sociopaths may form some superficial relationships, a psychopath is incapable of maintaining a true relationship. The appearance of such is all manipulation and thus disingenuous.”

So basically, a true psychopath has no real emotions, is more prone to physical violence, and has no regard for rules or laws, while a true sociopath is less likely to engage in physical violence and is prone to emotional outbursts.

Another tidbit of information worth noting is that, according Doctor Martha Stout (as quoted here), true “sociopaths make up 4% of western society (Stout, 2010). That’s about 1 in 25 people walking around among us without a conscience, without the ability to measure, or care to measure, the morality of their decisions and actions.”

That seems pretty low for percentages, but think about it: the people running things in this world happen to fall into that aforementioned four percent.  That includes businesspeople.

Okay, so what’s the real difference?  I mean, who cares what sort of fecal stain a relentless bully is?  Filth is filth.  But there are those of us who want answers, because it helps us deal better with what’s been done to us.  As it turns out, the line between narcissism and sociopathy is a thin one indeed, and very often narcissism, sociopathy, and psychopathy overlap: It is possible to be all three.

The common thread, however, is that all three types of whack-jobs are serial bullies, that is, they pick targets for their deranged behavior and go on perpetual attack, never letting up for an instant, until they’ve achieved satisfaction—and they never achieve satisfaction.

So yeah, just a bit of info-sharing.  Maybe you can gain some insight if you’re a fellow victim-survivor.